Take A Chance On Me
Remember the ABBA song? I love that song. There’s a video I found on yahoo.com today that is just great. A teenage girl named Sabrina is dying of ALS. Her family has arranged for her to have a “friendship” ceremony with her boyfriend, Matt. These kids don’t look like they’re too young to go ahead and get married. I would guess they’re sixteen or seventeen. And under normal circumstances, I’d be appalled, but if they both wanted to do so…why not let them?
It makes me think of the movie, A Walk to Remember. I think I’ve previously mentioned how much I hate Nicholas Sparks’ novels. The Notebook is one of his books that was made into a sappy movie. I usually think it’s schlock, but for some reason I love A Walk to Remember.
A few years ago, my great uncle (my maternal grandmother’s brother) lost his wife after a very long battle with cancer. He’s probably in his nineties now. He remarried, to a woman who was the best friend of his late spouse. They remarried right away. I mean it was practically like they embalmed my great aunt and then booked the church for a funeral/wedding ceremony. The woman he remarried to has since passed away.
Now a lot of our relatives were deeply concerned at how disrespectful it was to not wait the customary year to remarry after widowhood. Not me. I think my great aunt would have wanted him to remarry and to be happy. And who better to get married to than her best friend? Seemed like a win-win to me. And given the short amount of time that my great uncle had with his new wife it seems doubly good that they didn’t waste any time in walking down the aisle.
A lot of whirlwind marriages happen in wartime. People rush to the altar. When we’re talking about the greatest generation (my father’s generation), they made these marriages last and work. There were a lot of happy marriages made to virtual strangers during that time, much like the old arranged marriages where people grew to love each other.
Now I know that I’ve made a supreme fuss more than once about how I think that people should attain a certain age and maturity level before marrying, about how important it is to know someone in a dating context for a good long while before you choose to spend THE REST OF YOUR LIFE with someone…but what if the rest of your life might not be that long? Do what your heart tells you to do.
At the end of life the things that I think we regret the most are not the things we did that we are sorry for but rather the things we didn’t do. When it comes to love if you don’t act on that impulse sometimes you might miss an opportunity. As the hero from My Best Friend’s Wedding says, as he and Julia Roberts are dancing on a ship’s barge and the ship comes out from the shadow of a tunnel so poignantly (gotta love Hollywood’s subtle symbolism), the moment just passes you by.
So, there’s an exception to every rule. Be open to life’s possibilities.
Entry filed under: Death, Love, Marriage, Relationships, Social Commentary. Tags: ABBA, Amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, Facebook, Hollywood, Julia Roberts, Marriage, Nicholas Sparks, X-ray computed tomography.