The Oscar Curse
Men in the manosphere constantly bring up the fact that in reality women have equal opportunities to men. One cited a Forbes article that did show that women who made equal sacrifices for their career to what men do often make more than their male counterparts. What he didn’t factor in is how often women in the general population make sacrifices for mate and family that account for the difference in the wage gap between men and women.
The real reason why men make more money than women in general is because women make choices at the expense of their careers, often in order to further the careers of the men in their lives. Why do they do this? Because women know that they have a choice: have a happy family life and a peaceful relationship with their spouses or have a fabulous career. We haven’t come very far from the 1980s when the Supermom concept was first bantered about. Women do have careers, but they put their husbands and children first while men don’t have to make such a choice at all.
How do I know this? Well, you only have to look around and know some married women to see the principle in action, but there are actual statistics to back this up. Men are uncomfortable with their women being more successful than they are. Yes, you can have a career. You can even have a successful career, but you still better clean the house and have dinner on the table. And don’t surpass your husband with your career accomplishments because to do so means that you probably won’t have a husband for very long afterward.
If you don’t believe me, then just read this article from the Huffington Post about the so-called Oscar curse. The same thing happens in the general population. We won’t really have equal opportunity until the attitudes of men change. When they are truly okay with women having equal status, then men won’t feel threatened by women who equal or surpass them, and women will no longer have to make a choice between career and family. Men will make equal sacrifices for the family, and more wives will make more than their husbands. Hopefully, it all evens out in the end.
Entry filed under: Love, Marriage, Men, Social Commentary, Women's Rights. Tags: Academy Award, Academy Award for Best Actress, Forbes, Halle Berry, Huffington Post, Kate Winslet, Oscar love curse, University of Toronto.