The Oscar Curse

February 1, 2011 at 12:42 am 10 comments

Men in the manosphere constantly bring up the fact that in reality women have equal opportunities to men. One cited a Forbes article that did show that women who made equal sacrifices for their career to what men do often make more than their male counterparts. What he didn’t factor in is how often women in the general population make sacrifices for mate and family that account for the difference in the wage gap between men and women.

The real reason why men make more money than women in general is because women make choices at the expense of their careers, often in order to further the careers of the men in their lives. Why do they do this? Because women know that they have a choice: have a happy family life and a peaceful relationship with their spouses or have a fabulous career. We haven’t come very far from the 1980s when the Supermom concept was first bantered about. Women do have careers, but they put their husbands and children first while men don’t have to make such a choice at all.

How do I know this? Well, you only have to look around and know some married women to see the principle in action, but there are actual statistics to back this up. Men are uncomfortable with their women being more successful than they are. Yes, you can have a career. You can even have a successful career, but you still better clean the house and have dinner on the table. And don’t surpass your husband with your career accomplishments because to do so means that you probably won’t have a husband for very long afterward.

If you don’t believe me, then just read this article from the Huffington Post about the so-called Oscar curse. The same thing happens in the general population. We won’t really have equal opportunity until the attitudes of men change. When they are truly okay with women having equal status, then men won’t feel threatened by women who equal or surpass them, and women will no longer have to make a choice between career and family. Men will make equal sacrifices for the family, and more wives will make more than their husbands. Hopefully, it all evens out in the end.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/01/31/oscar-curse-study-researc_n_816295.html

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  • 1. Amanda  |  February 1, 2011 at 1:16 pm

    I’m in the minority because my husband would love for me to work and him to be home with the kids. He would love for me to be his sugar momma! There are exceptions to everything. And I wouldn’t trade where I am now for a high powered career. Let him have it! 🙂

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  • 2. Author  |  February 3, 2011 at 3:10 am

    I am so happy for you, Mark would make a great stay at home dad. I’m so glad for you both that he is willing to make the sacrifices necessary to sustain your family. Mark is a man among men. Be sure to tell him I told you that.

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  • 4. Fidel  |  February 3, 2011 at 12:19 pm

    “Women do have careers, but they put their husbands and children first while men don’t have to make such a choice at all.”

    No. Big Difference.

    Men have careers FOR their wives and children.

    And the unhappiest of wives outearn their spouses…..

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    • 5. Author  |  February 3, 2011 at 1:55 pm

      Men have careers FOR their wives and children? Really? I guess that means that all single men lounge around the house in their pajamas collecting welfare checks. Oh, wait a minute. No. I think I work with some single men. Scratch that theory.

      Maybe wives wouldn’t be unhappy earning more than their spouses if men weren’t so obviously threatened by it. The fact that it’s a factor at all shows our society’s discomfort. Most men make a lot of assumptions about their entitlements, by virtue of nothing but being born with a penis. One of those assumptions is that they will make more money than their spouse.

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  • 6. JP  |  February 8, 2011 at 9:37 pm

    Actually, it’s women who have a problem with being more successful than their husbands.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy

    And if woman wants to put her career ahead of everything else, she can by virtue of nothing but being born with a womb.

    It seems that women have to choose between career and family by dint of simple biology. No career and a family, or a career and menopause.

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    • 7. Author  |  February 8, 2011 at 10:14 pm

      Marrying to better one’s status in life is not something that’s exclusive to the female sex. There are people of either gender who trade “love” for money and status. If only you could ask Doris Duke or Barbara Hutton or Christina Onassis…

      I think men have the bigger problem with this, but I’m sure there are some women who would also be uncomfortable with making more than their husbands. That’s because it’s conditioned by our society to expect the opposite.

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    • 8. Author  |  February 8, 2011 at 10:17 pm

      I know plenty of women with careers and families. That’s only going to be increasing. Younger men are more open to gender equality issues. I’m going to experience menopause whether or not I pop out a kid. It’s going to happen eventually; that’s a fact of nature.

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